In-time reminder

Saw this on my korean sister's page tonight... what a perfect time. This is one of my favorite poems back in the days.


The Road Not Taken 
by Robert Frost

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth.

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same.

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I--
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

Decision, decision, decision.

老爸說的是實話 他們在金錢在資源方面 從來沒有不支持我
我覺得今天很讓我難過的是
我知道他們在擔心
但是他們光是擔心 擔心著還沒發生的未來 就一昧不看好我
反倒讓我更失望

It's the first time that I actually got the chance and the guts to bring out the idea of wanting to go to Vienna and study German there after I finish my studies here. and their reaction is predictably shocked and somehow don't understand....of course my dad, he wants me to think over this again.

I know the idea of me going there indeed seems ridiculous in a way, but I am confident that Kgo and I can make things work. I don't know why it is so hard for them to accept when I choose to do something that seems to be out of their realm. Of course, I know they're doing so is because they care about me, they want to protect me and want me to make decisions that are good for me. But I really don't see myself going back to Taiwan either. I don't wanna go back. yes, I might eventually get hurt, and go home with wound, hiding my tail between my legs, but before I actually step out and be there. I really know nothing!

I don't know how to explain, but I feel that I'm neither on Kgo's side, nor on their side. It is not that I don't love them, I miss them too, but I know that I won't be happy going back home, because I won't have Kgo on my side, I'll be empty. But going over there is like this daunting gigantic task that I don't know how to solve other than simply trying to carry it out.

Last day of March

又生了無所謂的脾氣吧
但是感覺他很不珍惜我
還是真的少根筋 (或是我也是少根筋?)

有時跟他溝通真是傷腦筋! >"<

今天也是'大姨媽'來造訪我的第一天
可能真的算他倒楣吧

又記
有時人可能真的不要太大方 或熱心
我有點擔心前陣子剛認識的德國朋友會錯意

雖然說他人很好 但我也跟他表明我有男朋友了呀
希望這只是暫時的

Embrace my month! :-)

四月大計畫:

-CATESOL Poster section presentation (4/24)  [Updates: 大成功!!]
(will post pictures too!)  
-Thesis Project
-OPT or CPT?
-Contacting teaching /working prospects in Vienna, AU
-Manage your life/class well
-Go outdoor at least once a week! (Mission Peak is my new love!)


敬請大家 敬請期待 People y'all gonna watch me shine! ;)

Thanks Eno!

今天跟Eno有了難得的長談耶
E是少數幾個到現在還能打開手機就能暢談且剖心切腸掛肚的知己吧
(雖然說被我描寫得很像下酒菜, 但是這樣的人不叫知己, 我還真不知叫什麼)

要先愛上自己吧
笨笨的我總忘記了要以自己為主
有時一昧的想依賴著對方 替對方也帶來很大的困擾吧

要照顧好自己 愛上自己
也才能會再度吸引對方

不要想空想太多
要去實踐 一步步走 一件件完成
要去打造自己的成就感

可以跟"林大師"談談 被開導開導真好
雖說起因是我小心眼 又在胡思亂想 擔心男友跟別人去遊威尼斯會被拐走 (憑空亂想的種子是很恐怖的)

但是真的要看開點吧
不能每次每場戀情都把自己搞得生不如死的
心智年齡都感覺像是上千歲的姥姥或是吸血鬼

看來我就還是不太能適應 "有緣相聚, 無緣各自去"吧

自己太認真了 結果給了對方很大的壓力 導致兩個人都不知道說甚麼好

為什麼你就那麼貪圖那個結果呢?
要快樂呀 要過程呀 要相信對方呀

加油! (I love you, E!!)

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前一陣子開始在看Dr. Phil McGraw的關係療程書 叫做"Relationship Rescue"
想跟Kgo一塊做 也許能讓我們的關係 更進一步 (but I haven't heard anything back from him yet, for one of the exercises that I typed out and sent to him a while ago...oh well, I haven't sent him my part either~!)

我覺得裡面有一章對我可能挺重要的叫做"Eliminating your bad spirits" 因為有的時候真的是自己自作孽沒事亂空想!)

他的另外一本書叫做Love Smart (Link to his site) Google book link
我還找到了有聲書 所以也許我聽一聽 再把我的心得post上來跟大家分享

其實我原本的構想是效法Julie在Juile & Julia中把整本書當作治療自己的療程
每天聽一點 閱讀一些 也讓自己開心一些 讓我跟Kgo的關係更棒一些:)

所以嚕 我會加油的!! :)

接下來的事情 更是會接踵而來的 我得要快快完成這一部分 才能接下去做我更想做的事!

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四月大計畫:

-CATESOL Poster section presentation (4/24)
-Thesis Project
-OPT or CPT?
-Contacting teaching /working prospects in Vienna, AU
-Manage your life/class well
-Go outdoor at least once a week! (Mission Peak is my new love!)


敬請大家 敬請期待 People y'all gonna watch me shine! ;)

Love,
m

說的好對呀!

很無用的我又跑去看占星的東西了..... 但也許這一段可以讓我來警惕自己吧!!

"當現代社會日益講求男女平等時，在感情中女人往往會忽略開發自身鼓勵或誘導對方改變的溫柔，這個能力其實並不會影響我們在 工作上的表現。期待對方像個男人，就要讓他的陽剛之氣有所發展。這個方式不但挑戰著你我既有的個性特質，也隱藏我們可能忽視的幸福潛力。很多女人只有一套 劇本，她們認為必須極力照顧這個男人，才能讓男人愛她；或者，藉由不斷關心對方，讓自己感覺對方需要她，或者欺騙自己過得很幸福，假裝看不到關係中已經存 在的問題。營造愛的氣氛，你我的確有責任。然而，在每一個過程中，我們必須引導或邀請另一半的參與，不論他做的好壞，都要給予對方正面的回饋。最棒的相處 就是彼此的滿足與快樂。當你覺得對方不再珍惜你或是想說再見的時候，你首要做的，就是先珍惜自己，讓自己過得開心，同時再讓彼此回到最初開心相處的感覺裡。千萬不要為了留住對方，而傻傻地加碼付出，以為對方會感覺你的重要，會少不了你。最後，怕的是你只得到他的感激，而不是他的承諾與感情。"

Para este fin de semana.

這個週末是個很扎實的週末。

下禮拜有空時一定回來補上

但是現在先留個小note.

"是的,老爹. 我們寄回家的紅包不是什麼紅包; 只是心意罷了". Wish I got the guts to say it right in his face, on the phone, over the couple weekly family phone calls. 長大之後發現自己具有驚人的讓自己父母語塞的能力; 不願爭持, 於是乎你選擇保持緘默