進行式。皮膚下有血脈噴張，躍躍欲試的欣喜。異國的泥土呀，新大陸的風光；家鄉的溫暖呀，重逢時的淚光。
Can't wait. I really can't believe I'm going to be there this soon. It almost seems like too good to be true.
2010年10月5日 星期二
2010年9月28日 星期二
"just because she's lonely.."
When will I hear that from you that you care about whether I'm lonely or not?
Just feeling so not worthy all of a sudden.
oh forget him, go suit himself. I can hang out with more guy friends if it is okay with him too....
"if I am feeling lonely too"
Just feeling so not worthy all of a sudden.
oh forget him, go suit himself. I can hang out with more guy friends if it is okay with him too....
"if I am feeling lonely too"
2010年7月13日 星期二
Second week of July [part II]
After first weekend in Tahoe celebrating the 4th of July, we had our first and final yard sale for two days over this passing weekend. The turnout was not too bad! We were able to get rid of much stuff and had a little flow of cash with us.
Meanwhile, we are really lucky to find this woman who is willing to move into our apt. so that we don't have to worry about the lease and the rent for the following two months, which also means WE have to move out of our house. soon.
Too soon to an extent that I was a bit panic for all these changes. Because with the issue of not being able to find my way to Wien hovering over my head, I don't know whether I'm ready for all these either.
Meanwhile, we are really lucky to find this woman who is willing to move into our apt. so that we don't have to worry about the lease and the rent for the following two months, which also means WE have to move out of our house. soon.
Too soon to an extent that I was a bit panic for all these changes. Because with the issue of not being able to find my way to Wien hovering over my head, I don't know whether I'm ready for all these either.
Second week of July.
I need you to be okay with this, with this constant changing and seemingly aimless, unstable living situation. You need to pull yourself together! Whether for you or for Jennifer.
Don't make her worry again before she leaves!!
Keep your chin up; crying and being upsetting won't do you any good...
Action, action, action!!
Think about what to say about the coming up talk you are going to give next week, think about the classes that you're going to teach...think about how you can make things easier for yourself and others, think about what other things you can plan once you're home....
(This will be a real reunion after 5 years...well, for my parents, this gonna be the first time in 10 years!)
I need you to be okay with this....BE STRONG, firefly.
Don't make her worry again before she leaves!!
Keep your chin up; crying and being upsetting won't do you any good...
Action, action, action!!
Think about what to say about the coming up talk you are going to give next week, think about the classes that you're going to teach...think about how you can make things easier for yourself and others, think about what other things you can plan once you're home....
(This will be a real reunion after 5 years...well, for my parents, this gonna be the first time in 10 years!)
I need you to be okay with this....BE STRONG, firefly.
2010年6月22日 星期二
2010年6月18日 星期五
A note for myself
"愛情對女生確實是很重要的一件事，但很多女生談戀愛時，忘了怎麼做自己。所以20幾歲的女生，把戀愛當成甜 點就好。當主菜，過度把男友當成生活重心，會因為他失去很多自己想做的事。最後要是跟男友分手，發現自己什麼都沒有。
如果沒有愛情就會餓死，這是件很可怕的事。"
要聰明點呀!
引用網址 女王：把自己變成愛情市場的強勢買方 http://www.cheers.com.tw/doc/page.jspx?id=40288abc266a2e81012687cc9c700f73&number=3
文／盧智芳 圖／廖祐瑲
2010年2月 Cheers 雜誌
在一個強調能力至上的年代，什麼力都有，不過大概都沒有比新生代兩性作家女王喊出的這項勁爆： 她對年輕女生說：要有「女王力」！
什麼是「女王力」？隔了兩年再度針對兩性關係創 作，她選擇這3個字做為主軸。女王的解釋倒很有趣：她說年輕女生嚮往的人生典型已由「公主」進化到「女王」，「對自己人生負責，比找到願意為妳負責的男人 重要。」駕馭方向的成就感跟樂趣，遠超過小鳥依人。
這當然跟女王近兩年的體會也不無 關聯。從上班族、部落客到變成作家，現在更拍廣告、為產品代言、帶網友到泰國曼谷自助遊，其間，她跨過女人敏感的30大關。「我自己在快30歲時也很恐 懼，覺得完蛋了，我要老了，」她說，但不斷鼓勵自己「試試看」，多方探索，竟意外挖掘出一條大道：「真正走過以後，我反而很開心，覺得好棒。」
雖然文筆既犀利又帶著煽動力，但令我印象最深刻的是，女王的出發點，倒不是為女生「出氣」而已：「台灣有許多兩性書籍，可是 我一直覺得缺乏一本替20幾歲這個族群的女生寫的成長書。」她希望像朋友一樣將心比心，寫給她們一本勵志書。
雖然愛是人類永恆的課題，但每個世代永遠需要屬於自己的解答，這或許正說明了女王之所以大受歡迎的原因吧！
比起以往的兩性作家代表，例如吳淡如、廖輝英、吳若權.....，妳覺得妳 跟他們有什麼不同？
最大差別在文字的說話方式上吧。
前輩作家們比較以老師教育的方式寫，告訴讀者該怎麼做才會感情順利。我寫作的方式就像跟朋友講話，他們不覺得我高不可攀。
我從不吝於跟大家分享我自己慘痛的經驗，讀者不會覺得我都沒有失戀過，我也被劈過腿，他遇到的事，我也遇到過。同樣的，我如 果可以復原，他也可以。
其實我很怕當上專家，有人問我婚姻問題，我還沒結婚，怎麼回 答？我從不給怎麼做的建議，而是提供不同的路線讓他思考。人生的決定應該自己下，不是靠別人告訴你。
失戀不等於失敗，說不定這失戀是人生的成功。因為你離開一個不好的人，人生不是往更好的路走嗎？很多事都是一念之間。後來我很 感謝之前的男友，因為要不是他劈腿，我也不會離開他。
很多年輕女性都覺得妳說出她們的心聲。妳會怎麼描述這個族群對於愛情跟自我的看法？
我自己剛好邁入30歲，我發現女生只要進入30歲，就會有種集體恐慌。可能是「再不嫁，就沒人要了」。她們也卡在矛盾的中間 點，不能像以前再當個「女孩」。
愛情對女生確實是很重要的一件事，但很多女生談戀愛 時，忘了怎麼做自己。所以20幾歲的女生，把戀愛當成甜點就好。當主菜，過度把男友當成生活重心，會因為他失去很多自己想做的事。最後要是跟男友分手，發 現自己什麼都沒有。
如果沒有愛情就會餓死，這是件很可怕的事。
我開始準備出書時，之前的男友很不支持。他覺得我為什麼這麼愛出風頭？安安穩穩當個小上班族就好。我覺得很失望，如果愛我， 為什麼不支持我的夢想？我很掙扎，也很不開心，但認真思考後，這是我想做的事，我覺得他是不對的。所以我就堅持做自己想做的。
對30幾歲的女生，當妳已經歷過了幾段戀情，一定會有所成長。最要避免的是重複過去的錯誤。以前愛不對人，不能繼續愛不對 人。
這個社會給女生年齡的壓力太大了。但過了25歲後，再去觀察女生的變化，會發現 是靠後天的努力。光靠美貌去換取資源是有壽命的。反而是懂得讓自己變好的女生，過了30歲以後，會愈來愈發光發熱。
這些觀察跟思考，跟妳自己過去的工作經歷有關？
我念廣告，以前做的又是行銷企劃，接觸的女性很多。開始寫兩性的文章後，別人就把我當成「張老師」，問我很多感情的問題，很 多觀察跟敏感度都從這邊來。
現在的作家和以前不同，以前關在家裡獨居就可以寫出很好 的作品，但我不行，我一定要去了解、接觸很多人，才能寫出貼近人心的東西，我沒辦法活在自己的世界裡面寫。
其實我最早是寫自己的經驗，我談過很多次戀愛，遇到很多問題，就把疑問變成文章。寫久了之後，發現我的問題，也是別人的問題。
從上班族變成作家，現在妳也為很多商品代言，成為某種「名人」，這是妳對生 涯經營的想法？
這一切都是意外。我以前是個上班族，把寫作當成興 趣，好玩。後來出版社找我出書，我想說：好吧，賣不好就當作沒有這回事。第一本書大賣後，我才把工作辭掉，好好做這件事。
出第一本書時，我並不想當名人，放了張看不到臉的照片，也很抗拒宣傳。但還好我的個性很樂天，試了幾次，我慢慢開始「欣然接 受」意外的人生。
旅遊書也是無心的插曲，因為我喜歡在部落格上分享旅遊經驗，後來才 想到出成一本書好了。現在我還常常辦網聚，我發現自己喜歡跟讀者接觸，讓他們看得到我。
妳的文字都很辛辣、直接，妳是個女性主義者嗎？
我念大學時看了很多女性主義的書，像《第二性》，什麼都看。可是現在我覺得不大適合用女性主義來稱呼，因為以前女性沒有地位， 是男性的附屬品，但現在已經不是了。
這十幾年來，女生進步速度很快，很願意自我投 資。愈來愈多女生接受姊弟戀、異國戀情，也比以前更多元。反而男生都是一樣的，沒有太大進步。
說到男性，妳對他們有什麼觀察？
我也有男性讀者，但是以潛水族居多。可能是為了了解女生，或是女友叫他看，或是想知道為什麼女生在看這本書。
現在的男生即使表面不敢表現出大男人主義，但心態上還是大男人的。我希望他們更懂得尊重女友，愛情應該是互相尊重，而不是互 相犧牲。
妳自己在戀愛狀態中嗎？
是啊（笑）。我這個男友2、3年了，他也滿辛苦的，人家會問他說：「你是不是常被女王欺負？」才沒有，其實都是他欺負我 （笑）。
那麼對於愛情，屬於「女王」的詮 釋是什麼？
愛情就像投資一樣，任何投資都有風險（笑）。
我是個保守型的投資者，所以我絕不會去碰高風險的商品。我不會選擇一開始就覺得很棘手的對象，譬如很帥、很有錢的，因為我有 很多慘痛的經驗。我們應該找「穩定發展的績優股」，起初或許沒那麼搶手，但可以培養，慢慢上漲，這就是好對象。
那兩性之間的相處呢？妳又會怎麼譬喻？
說直接點，兩性關係有點像人肉市場。當你條件愈好，籌碼愈多，可以選擇的對象就更好，是買方市場；但當你只能被人家挑的時 候，就變成賣方市場。我們在愛情中，都要讓自己變成強勢的買方市場。不能讓人家挑，是我們要去挑別人。
第一要認真工作，賺錢；然後，把自己打理得很好，讓自己受歡迎、有人緣，成為吸引人的對象，這就是籌碼。
很多人抱怨找不到好對象，我都會說：如果你想找到好對象，就把自己變成好對象。只希望別人來喜歡卻不提升自己，絕對不可能！
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2010年6月5日 星期六
都是這樣吧~
"真愛並不是妳想像中的那頂頭髮、或那對胸部，他是讓妳能夠輕鬆相處、悲喜共同的夥伴，甚至是一起面對未來的生命共同體。"
要不我怎會栽在這個蘿蔔上! :cp 哈
要不我怎會栽在這個蘿蔔上! :cp 哈
陶晶瑩-真愛要不要條件
文／ 陶晶瑩
有一個英國研究生，用了一個試算找到外星人的方程式來算找到真愛的機率，結果發現，找真愛比外星人還難。
經過媒體不經消化思考地以訛傳訛後，我身邊的單身姊妹淘又更加沮喪。
那個英國研究生開了幾個條件，年紀須與他相仿，須住在英國倫敦，最好住在船屋上（跟他一樣）…看出破綻了嗎？
請問，真愛有條件嗎？
假設我們幫一位金髮帥哥配上一位大眼厚唇、豐胸翹臀又性能力超強的正妹，完全是那個帥哥的夢中情人，結果，他們一開始天雷勾動地火，還生了小孩，但是，不到五年，他們因受不了對方而協議分手了。為什麼？我不知道。他們是布萊德彼特跟安潔莉娜裘莉。
所以，真愛並不是妳想像中的那頂頭髮、或那對胸部，他是讓妳能夠輕鬆相處、悲喜共同的夥伴，甚至是一起面對未來的生命共同體。
我的一位熟女朋友，最近便遭遇了這樣的困境。
離了婚的她，又已年屆不惑，於是便以為自己不會有任何春天，誰知道，最近的她有了不一樣的神采—原來，她戀愛了！
身為好友的我在聽到消息時正要替她開心起舞時，她的臉卻又垮下來，她說：「他發現了一件事，便又退縮了！」
什麼事？聽她說兩人相處融洽，在一起都是笑著、開心的，男人帶她去她從來都負擔不起的餐廳，而且又高又帥，她覺得自己轉運了，覺得上帝終於眷顧她，給她一份夢幻的愛情，誰知道，一次車禍，她躺在醫院，男人前去探病，看見了床頭的病歷表，發現女人不但年紀比他大，還整整大了他一輪！
所以，男人退縮了，不那麼常打電話了，減少碰面了，也不再說些曖昧的話了。
於是，她臉上綻放的花朵又漸漸低下了頭，枯萎了。午夜電話的另一頭，她對著我吶喊：「我也只是想要一份簡單的愛情，我也只是想要簡簡單單的生活，為什麼，為什麼這麼難？」
為什麼？因為這世上不懂愛的人還是很多，不知道真愛為何物的人更多！
就拿那個男人來說好了，大你12歲又如何？個性氣味相投、兩個人有聊不完的話題，互相喜歡對方的樣子，這有多難得？
在茫茫人海中，最難找的不是大眼睛、不是翹屁股、不是除了3、6、9歲的差距、不是身高或學歷，而是那顆能讓妳的心舒舒服服貼在一起的另一顆真心。
不然，妳去問布萊德彼特。
本文在ELLE雜誌2010年2月號同步連載
2010年6月2日 星期三
Another inspiring story from a Texas girl who aspires to dance!
http://video.nytimes.com/video/2010/05/31/arts/dance/1247467933017/an-american-at-the-bolshoi.html?th&emc=th
http://www.nytimes.com/slideshow/2010/05/31/world/0601BOLSHOI.html
I love the pictures in the slide shots as well. Very impressive.
Jia you! :)
http://www.nytimes.com/slideshow/2010/05/31/world/0601BOLSHOI.html
I love the pictures in the slide shots as well. Very impressive.
Jia you! :)
2010年6月1日 星期二
What awaits for June?
★★★金牛座
解析煩惱的牛是一隻明智的牛。(hm...真的嗎? 我也希望是這樣嚕!!)
大多煩惱可能來自那種天上掉不下來鈔票的安全感。(是沒錯!)
6月是個好時機集中精力調整財務。不過現在以及接下來的6個月，你在探索本我的精神層面會做得很好。探究創造性的項目和與你有關的快樂活動。為旅行，教育或任何給靈魂充電的活動做一個長期計劃。一扇門砰然關閉，你要準備好選擇生命為你開啟的另一扇門。是時候好好在家陪伴家人了。
(真的嗎? 看到了這一連串的話，還讓人有點欣慰呢。我有時真的感覺很茫然，有點像是無頭蒼蠅再忙著滿頭亂衝，但卻不知其所。或是不確定的方向感吧。恩。要再更加油一點呢!!)
幸運日：8號，9號，16號，17號。
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---附註
"mie的" 有沒有那麼準
剛剛看完 我好奇的跑去看我們家那個蘿蔔頭的運勢。不看還好，一看還蠻想吐血的。＞＂＜
★★★水瓶座
瓶 瓶6月在追逐夢想的大路上狂奔。仔細評估哪些停滯的想法對你的前進已毫無用處，哪些誤解阻礙你實現目標。此分析過程在明朗和微妙中搖擺不定。此時此地，放 低姿態、中庸為佳。從錢財到家務勞動瓶子都得妥協折中。別揮霍金錢。配偶、伴侶、合作者或搭檔正在經歷人生中最艱難的時刻。現在，你的境遇要好很多，向這 些處於低谷的人們表示你的憐憫與同情是明智之舉。瓶子正以新的姿態、發芽茁壯。深造和旅行都讓你能力和覺悟得到提高。想像一下生活更為壯闊的前景，為之奮 鬥吧。
好吧 那就希望我們家那個根筋會發達些！
解析煩惱的牛是一隻明智的牛。(hm...真的嗎? 我也希望是這樣嚕!!)
大多煩惱可能來自那種天上掉不下來鈔票的安全感。(是沒錯!)
6月是個好時機集中精力調整財務。不過現在以及接下來的6個月，你在探索本我的精神層面會做得很好。探究創造性的項目和與你有關的快樂活動。為旅行，教育或任何給靈魂充電的活動做一個長期計劃。一扇門砰然關閉，你要準備好選擇生命為你開啟的另一扇門。是時候好好在家陪伴家人了。
(真的嗎? 看到了這一連串的話，還讓人有點欣慰呢。我有時真的感覺很茫然，有點像是無頭蒼蠅再忙著滿頭亂衝，但卻不知其所。或是不確定的方向感吧。恩。要再更加油一點呢!!)
幸運日：8號，9號，16號，17號。
轉載自:該文章版權（著作權）屬於星譯社所有，網友如需轉貼請註明文章出處為
http://blog.sina.com.cn/astrotrans
---附註
"mie的" 有沒有那麼準
剛剛看完 我好奇的跑去看我們家那個蘿蔔頭的運勢。不看還好，一看還蠻想吐血的。＞＂＜
★★★水瓶座
瓶 瓶6月在追逐夢想的大路上狂奔。仔細評估哪些停滯的想法對你的前進已毫無用處，哪些誤解阻礙你實現目標。此分析過程在明朗和微妙中搖擺不定。此時此地，放 低姿態、中庸為佳。從錢財到家務勞動瓶子都得妥協折中。別揮霍金錢。配偶、伴侶、合作者或搭檔正在經歷人生中最艱難的時刻。現在，你的境遇要好很多，向這 些處於低谷的人們表示你的憐憫與同情是明智之舉。瓶子正以新的姿態、發芽茁壯。深造和旅行都讓你能力和覺悟得到提高。想像一下生活更為壯闊的前景，為之奮 鬥吧。
好吧 那就希望我們家那個根筋會發達些！
A house is not a house
This song gives me shiver tonight....ha. missing him much much now. sigh. But sending him this song might blow him away hahah. who knows it?
A chair is still a chair, even when there's no one sittin' there
But a chair is not a house and a house is not a home
When there's no one there to hold you tight
And no one there you can kiss goodnight
A room is a still a room, even when there's nothin' there but gloom
But a room is not a house and a house is not a home
When the two of us are far apart
And one of us has a broken heart
Now and then I call your name
And suddenly your face appears
But it's just a crazy game
When it ends, it ends in tears
Pretty little darling, have a heart,
Don't let one mistake keep us apart
I'm not meant to live alone, turn this house into a home
When I climb the stairs and turn the key
Oh, please be there, sayin' that you're still in love with me
Watch this very touching performance on hulu.com
http://www.mtv.com/news/articles/1637958/20100428/story.jhtml
A chair is still a chair, even when there's no one sittin' there
But a chair is not a house and a house is not a home
When there's no one there to hold you tight
And no one there you can kiss goodnight
A room is a still a room, even when there's nothin' there but gloom
But a room is not a house and a house is not a home
When the two of us are far apart
And one of us has a broken heart
Now and then I call your name
And suddenly your face appears
But it's just a crazy game
When it ends, it ends in tears
Pretty little darling, have a heart,
Don't let one mistake keep us apart
I'm not meant to live alone, turn this house into a home
When I climb the stairs and turn the key
Oh, please be there, sayin' that you're still in love with me
Watch this very touching performance on hulu.com
http://www.mtv.com/news/articles/1637958/20100428/story.jhtml
2010年5月10日 星期一
2010年5月4日 星期二
你把你的靈魂賣給了誰?
http://nthur.lib.nthu.edu.tw/handle/987654321/5291
這是從一個朋友那看到的聯結, 是一個在清華大學社會學研究所學生的論文。我覺得其題目及其標題都非常的值得我們省思及注意，所以在此再加以記錄。
這是從一個朋友那看到的聯結, 是一個在清華大學社會學研究所學生的論文。我覺得其題目及其標題都非常的值得我們省思及注意，所以在此再加以記錄。
| 題名: | 「我把我的靈魂賣給了工作」--竹科半導體產業工程師生活風格探討 |
| 其他題名: | "Sell One's Soul to the Work--The disscussion about the life style of the semiconductor industry engineers in HSIP |
| 作者: | 唐瑛蔓 |
| 描述: | 碩士 國立清華大學 社會學研究所 |
| 關鍵詞: | 工程師 生活風格 規訓 生存心態 自主性解消 |
摘 要 本 論文企圖解釋形塑竹科半導體產業工程師生活風格的機制。依循著Foucault 的微物理概念和Bourdieu的「Habitus」，我們發現工程師獨特的生活風格來自於工作場域和工作內容的銘刻作用。對Foucault和 Bourdieu而言，這是一種規訓勞動主體的方式，半導體產業工程師會在勞動過程當中，不自覺得發展出一套寫在身體的知識系統，這套知識系統深刻影響著 工程師們的所有行動，本論文的第三章即將竹科工程師族群特有的「Habitus」定義為「工作至上」。而在論文的第四章即利用Foucault的微物理概 念詳加討論影響工程師「Habitus」產生的機制，包括高科技產業的生產文化和在工作空間的行動方式等。依照Foucualt和Bourdieu的理 論，行動主體是難以逃脫物質環境掌控的，於是第五章本論文回答了竹科工程師是否能夠逃脫得了高科技工作的種種箝制，然而根據田野觀察和訪談研究分析，"我們 很明白的看到了竹科工程師在把勞動力賣給高科技資本家的同時，一併賣掉了他的靈魂和自主性。失去了靈魂和自主性的科技人除了能夠精確的掌握工作外，他們沒 有辦法用心的去經營工作外的生活，這就是高科技產業帶來的麻煩，如果台灣社會將要繼續發展高科技產業，我們必需正視這一個問題。" 說的好好呀~真是令人發自省思的想法。 |
2010年4月30日 星期五
Silly hearsay politic comments and others
Statement based by false generalization is faulted already. Using fabricated hearsay and irrational words that you borrowed from someone also kills one's creditability. And to my surprise is that one of my friends (with her many years of education overseas), still talks like one of those who never left their countries.
That horrifies me to some degrees. Why would she believe that?
Those are just irrational words that meant to stir up more emotions and make people not being able to sensibly look at the real issues themselves. I wish to reason with her, but I recede knowing that it will just lead to blurry meaningless discussion.
On the second note, maybe the whole celebration thing is overrated. I don't know why it is so hard to make plans with others sometimes. oh well. Probably it is also an unnecessary celebration too! Difficult times now... one should learn to count his blessing!
On the last note, I feel like hurting people now. I know it sounds mad to say so, but don't feel sort of feeling like that when we're out of love? I don't know. I am a creep I know.
(oh, got my very lovely red dress ever. Jen is the best sister you can ever got! yay!)
yes, I want him jealous...I long for his attention. I know it was just all silly....but I don't care. really I don't care.
That horrifies me to some degrees. Why would she believe that?
Those are just irrational words that meant to stir up more emotions and make people not being able to sensibly look at the real issues themselves. I wish to reason with her, but I recede knowing that it will just lead to blurry meaningless discussion.
On the second note, maybe the whole celebration thing is overrated. I don't know why it is so hard to make plans with others sometimes. oh well. Probably it is also an unnecessary celebration too! Difficult times now... one should learn to count his blessing!
On the last note, I feel like hurting people now. I know it sounds mad to say so, but don't feel sort of feeling like that when we're out of love? I don't know. I am a creep I know.
(oh, got my very lovely red dress ever. Jen is the best sister you can ever got! yay!)
yes, I want him jealous...I long for his attention. I know it was just all silly....but I don't care. really I don't care.
2010年4月28日 星期三
"Stay hungry, stay foolish"
No matter how fast time changes...家書還是可以抵萬金呀
這是今天在整理歸類東西時的一個感想
在整理的同時, 又找到了這一篇幾年前聽過的演講 今天再聽一次 還是同樣令人振奮
尤其是在這個時間點上, 我覺得我更能感同身受吧
以下是我節選我自己所喜愛句子 大部分是從第二個故書出來的
"Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.
"I had been rejected, but I'm still in love."
"Keep looking, don't settle."
這是今天在整理歸類東西時的一個感想
在整理的同時, 又找到了這一篇幾年前聽過的演講 今天再聽一次 還是同樣令人振奮
尤其是在這個時間點上, 我覺得我更能感同身受吧
以下是我節選我自己所喜愛句子 大部分是從第二個故書出來的
"Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.
"I had been rejected, but I'm still in love."
"Keep looking, don't settle."
2010年4月16日 星期五
2010年4月3日 星期六
In-time reminder
Saw this on my korean sister's page tonight... what a perfect time. This is one of my favorite poems back in the days.
The Road Not Taken
by Robert Frost
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth.
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same.
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I--
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
The Road Not Taken
by Robert Frost
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth.
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same.
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I--
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
Decision, decision, decision.
老爸說的是實話 他們在金錢在資源方面 從來沒有不支持我
我覺得今天很讓我難過的是
我知道他們在擔心
但是他們光是擔心 擔心著還沒發生的未來 就一昧不看好我
反倒讓我更失望
It's the first time that I actually got the chance and the guts to bring out the idea of wanting to go to Vienna and study German there after I finish my studies here. and their reaction is predictably shocked and somehow don't understand....of course my dad, he wants me to think over this again.
I know the idea of me going there indeed seems ridiculous in a way, but I am confident that Kgo and I can make things work. I don't know why it is so hard for them to accept when I choose to do something that seems to be out of their realm. Of course, I know they're doing so is because they care about me, they want to protect me and want me to make decisions that are good for me. But I really don't see myself going back to Taiwan either. I don't wanna go back. yes, I might eventually get hurt, and go home with wound, hiding my tail between my legs, but before I actually step out and be there. I really know nothing!
I don't know how to explain, but I feel that I'm neither on Kgo's side, nor on their side. It is not that I don't love them, I miss them too, but I know that I won't be happy going back home, because I won't have Kgo on my side, I'll be empty. But going over there is like this daunting gigantic task that I don't know how to solve other than simply trying to carry it out.
我覺得今天很讓我難過的是
我知道他們在擔心
但是他們光是擔心 擔心著還沒發生的未來 就一昧不看好我
反倒讓我更失望
It's the first time that I actually got the chance and the guts to bring out the idea of wanting to go to Vienna and study German there after I finish my studies here. and their reaction is predictably shocked and somehow don't understand....of course my dad, he wants me to think over this again.
I know the idea of me going there indeed seems ridiculous in a way, but I am confident that Kgo and I can make things work. I don't know why it is so hard for them to accept when I choose to do something that seems to be out of their realm. Of course, I know they're doing so is because they care about me, they want to protect me and want me to make decisions that are good for me. But I really don't see myself going back to Taiwan either. I don't wanna go back. yes, I might eventually get hurt, and go home with wound, hiding my tail between my legs, but before I actually step out and be there. I really know nothing!
I don't know how to explain, but I feel that I'm neither on Kgo's side, nor on their side. It is not that I don't love them, I miss them too, but I know that I won't be happy going back home, because I won't have Kgo on my side, I'll be empty. But going over there is like this daunting gigantic task that I don't know how to solve other than simply trying to carry it out.
2010年4月1日 星期四
Last day of March
又生了無所謂的脾氣吧
但是感覺他很不珍惜我
還是真的少根筋 (或是我也是少根筋?)
有時跟他溝通真是傷腦筋! >"<
今天也是'大姨媽'來造訪我的第一天
可能真的算他倒楣吧
又記
有時人可能真的不要太大方 或熱心
我有點擔心前陣子剛認識的德國朋友會錯意
雖然說他人很好 但我也跟他表明我有男朋友了呀
希望這只是暫時的
但是感覺他很不珍惜我
還是真的少根筋 (或是我也是少根筋?)
有時跟他溝通真是傷腦筋! >"<
今天也是'大姨媽'來造訪我的第一天
可能真的算他倒楣吧
又記
有時人可能真的不要太大方 或熱心
我有點擔心前陣子剛認識的德國朋友會錯意
雖然說他人很好 但我也跟他表明我有男朋友了呀
希望這只是暫時的
2010年3月24日 星期三
Embrace my month! :-)
四月大計畫:
-CATESOL Poster section presentation (4/24) [Updates: 大成功!!]
(will post pictures too!)
-Thesis Project
-OPT or CPT?
-Contacting teaching /working prospects in Vienna, AU
-Manage your life/class well
-Go outdoor at least once a week! (Mission Peak is my new love!)
敬請大家 敬請期待 People y'all gonna watch me shine! ;)
-CATESOL Poster section presentation (4/24) [Updates: 大成功!!]
(will post pictures too!)
-Thesis Project
-OPT or CPT?
-Contacting teaching /working prospects in Vienna, AU
-Manage your life/class well
-Go outdoor at least once a week! (Mission Peak is my new love!)
敬請大家 敬請期待 People y'all gonna watch me shine! ;)
Thanks Eno!
今天跟Eno有了難得的長談耶
E是少數幾個到現在還能打開手機就能暢談且剖心切腸掛肚的知己吧
(雖然說被我描寫得很像下酒菜, 但是這樣的人不叫知己, 我還真不知叫什麼)
要先愛上自己吧
笨笨的我總忘記了要以自己為主
有時一昧的想依賴著對方 替對方也帶來很大的困擾吧
要照顧好自己 愛上自己
也才能會再度吸引對方
不要想空想太多
要去實踐 一步步走 一件件完成
要去打造自己的成就感
可以跟"林大師"談談 被開導開導真好
雖說起因是我小心眼 又在胡思亂想 擔心男友跟別人去遊威尼斯會被拐走 (憑空亂想的種子是很恐怖的)
但是真的要看開點吧
不能每次每場戀情都把自己搞得生不如死的
心智年齡都感覺像是上千歲的姥姥或是吸血鬼
看來我就還是不太能適應 "有緣相聚, 無緣各自去"吧
自己太認真了 結果給了對方很大的壓力 導致兩個人都不知道說甚麼好
為什麼你就那麼貪圖那個結果呢?
要快樂呀 要過程呀 要相信對方呀
加油! (I love you, E!!)
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前一陣子開始在看Dr. Phil McGraw的關係療程書 叫做"Relationship Rescue"
想跟Kgo一塊做 也許能讓我們的關係 更進一步 (but I haven't heard anything back from him yet, for one of the exercises that I typed out and sent to him a while ago...oh well, I haven't sent him my part either~!)
我覺得裡面有一章對我可能挺重要的叫做"Eliminating your bad spirits" 因為有的時候真的是自己自作孽沒事亂空想!)
他的另外一本書叫做Love Smart (Link to his site) Google book link
我還找到了有聲書 所以也許我聽一聽 再把我的心得post上來跟大家分享
其實我原本的構想是效法Julie在Juile & Julia中把整本書當作治療自己的療程
每天聽一點 閱讀一些 也讓自己開心一些 讓我跟Kgo的關係更棒一些:)
所以嚕 我會加油的!! :)
接下來的事情 更是會接踵而來的 我得要快快完成這一部分 才能接下去做我更想做的事!
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四月大計畫:
-CATESOL Poster section presentation (4/24)
-Thesis Project
-OPT or CPT?
-Contacting teaching /working prospects in Vienna, AU
-Manage your life/class well
-Go outdoor at least once a week! (Mission Peak is my new love!)
敬請大家 敬請期待 People y'all gonna watch me shine! ;)
Love,
m
E是少數幾個到現在還能打開手機就能暢談且剖心切腸掛肚的知己吧
(雖然說被我描寫得很像下酒菜, 但是這樣的人不叫知己, 我還真不知叫什麼)
要先愛上自己吧
笨笨的我總忘記了要以自己為主
有時一昧的想依賴著對方 替對方也帶來很大的困擾吧
要照顧好自己 愛上自己
也才能會再度吸引對方
不要想空想太多
要去實踐 一步步走 一件件完成
要去打造自己的成就感
可以跟"林大師"談談 被開導開導真好
雖說起因是我小心眼 又在胡思亂想 擔心男友跟別人去遊威尼斯會被拐走 (憑空亂想的種子是很恐怖的)
但是真的要看開點吧
不能每次每場戀情都把自己搞得生不如死的
心智年齡都感覺像是上千歲的姥姥或是吸血鬼
看來我就還是不太能適應 "有緣相聚, 無緣各自去"吧
自己太認真了 結果給了對方很大的壓力 導致兩個人都不知道說甚麼好
為什麼你就那麼貪圖那個結果呢?
要快樂呀 要過程呀 要相信對方呀
加油! (I love you, E!!)
------------------------------------------------------------------
前一陣子開始在看Dr. Phil McGraw的關係療程書 叫做"Relationship Rescue"
想跟Kgo一塊做 也許能讓我們的關係 更進一步 (but I haven't heard anything back from him yet, for one of the exercises that I typed out and sent to him a while ago...oh well, I haven't sent him my part either~!)
我覺得裡面有一章對我可能挺重要的叫做"Eliminating your bad spirits" 因為有的時候真的是自己自作孽沒事亂空想!)
他的另外一本書叫做Love Smart (Link to his site) Google book link
我還找到了有聲書 所以也許我聽一聽 再把我的心得post上來跟大家分享
其實我原本的構想是效法Julie在Juile & Julia中把整本書當作治療自己的療程
每天聽一點 閱讀一些 也讓自己開心一些 讓我跟Kgo的關係更棒一些:)
所以嚕 我會加油的!! :)
接下來的事情 更是會接踵而來的 我得要快快完成這一部分 才能接下去做我更想做的事!
-------------------------------------------------------------------------
四月大計畫:
-CATESOL Poster section presentation (4/24)
-Thesis Project
-OPT or CPT?
-Contacting teaching /working prospects in Vienna, AU
-Manage your life/class well
-Go outdoor at least once a week! (Mission Peak is my new love!)
敬請大家 敬請期待 People y'all gonna watch me shine! ;)
Love,
m
2010年3月22日 星期一
說的好對呀!
很無用的我又跑去看占星的東西了..... 但也許這一段可以讓我來警惕自己吧!!
"當現代社會日益講求男女平等時，在感情中女人往往會忽略開發自身鼓勵或誘導對方改變的溫柔，這個能力其實並不會影響我們在 工作上的表現。期待對方像個男人，就要讓他的陽剛之氣有所發展。這個方式不但挑戰著你我既有的個性特質，也隱藏我們可能忽視的幸福潛力。很多女人只有一套 劇本，她們認為必須極力照顧這個男人，才能讓男人愛她；或者，藉由不斷關心對方，讓自己感覺對方需要她，或者欺騙自己過得很幸福，假裝看不到關係中已經存 在的問題。營造愛的氣氛，你我的確有責任。然而，在每一個過程中，我們必須引導或邀請另一半的參與，不論他做的好壞，都要給予對方正面的回饋。最棒的相處 就是彼此的滿足與快樂。當你覺得對方不再珍惜你或是想說再見的時候，你首要做的，就是先珍惜自己，讓自己過得開心，同時再讓彼此回到最初開心相處的感覺裡。千萬不要為了留住對方，而傻傻地加碼付出，以為對方會感覺你的重要，會少不了你。最後，怕的是你只得到他的感激，而不是他的承諾與感情。"
"當現代社會日益講求男女平等時，在感情中女人往往會忽略開發自身鼓勵或誘導對方改變的溫柔，這個能力其實並不會影響我們在 工作上的表現。期待對方像個男人，就要讓他的陽剛之氣有所發展。這個方式不但挑戰著你我既有的個性特質，也隱藏我們可能忽視的幸福潛力。很多女人只有一套 劇本，她們認為必須極力照顧這個男人，才能讓男人愛她；或者，藉由不斷關心對方，讓自己感覺對方需要她，或者欺騙自己過得很幸福，假裝看不到關係中已經存 在的問題。營造愛的氣氛，你我的確有責任。然而，在每一個過程中，我們必須引導或邀請另一半的參與，不論他做的好壞，都要給予對方正面的回饋。最棒的相處 就是彼此的滿足與快樂。當你覺得對方不再珍惜你或是想說再見的時候，你首要做的，就是先珍惜自己，讓自己過得開心，同時再讓彼此回到最初開心相處的感覺裡。千萬不要為了留住對方，而傻傻地加碼付出，以為對方會感覺你的重要，會少不了你。最後，怕的是你只得到他的感激，而不是他的承諾與感情。"
2010年3月14日 星期日
Para este fin de semana.
這個週末是個很扎實的週末。
下禮拜有空時一定回來補上
但是現在先留個小note.
下禮拜有空時一定回來補上
但是現在先留個小note.
"是的,老爹. 我們寄回家的紅包不是什麼紅包; 只是心意罷了". Wish I got the guts to say it right in his face, on the phone, over the couple weekly family phone calls. 長大之後發現自己具有驚人的讓自己父母語塞的能力; 不願爭持, 於是乎你選擇保持緘默
2010年3月10日 星期三
2010年3月4日 星期四
Detox recipe!
http://nutritionforempoweredwomen.client.tagonline.com/blog/raw-soup-awesome-taste-and-detox-in-a-bowl/
ngredients:
ngredients:
1 ripe Haas avocado, pitted and scooped
2 scallions, diced green and white parts
1 red pepper, seeded and chopped
1 cucumber, peeled if waxy
2 handfuls of spinach
1 small clove garlic
1 teaspoon Bragg’s Liquid Aminos
Juice of 1 lemon or lime
Optional: fresh parsley, basil leaves, cilantro, cayenne powder, almonds soaked overnight in water and drained, etc.
Blend all the ingredients together until creamy – enjoy!
I wanna try it out sometimes!
Sunny Thursday!
Construct n deconstruct; I'm a memory beholder.
Another find today from my old email stuff:
"People became lonely especially when they are deprived to see someone they really care about"
so true.
Another find today from my old email stuff:
"People became lonely especially when they are deprived to see someone they really care about"
so true.
2010年3月3日 星期三
Some progress?
So we talked today.
I'm really glad we did.
It was productive in a way, at least it wakes me up a bit.
It was a good reality check.
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We are looking for different things; He wants the fun part and I seeks an end.
Marriage was never on his agenda. ha. How foolish was I.
Thought that he might be different.
But did he realize that the things that he wanted me to make takes a lot of efforts and that kinda of efforts is something I would only do if I see him as someone special? I don't know.
But on the other side, I don't think I'm ready for marriage either. It was just one of the many options that seems can bring us together more easily. I really just want to be happy with him, but learning that marrying me was never part of his picture really kinda baffles me. It dwindled my courage and determination of willing to give out everything just be there with him.
I'm afraid of giving myself all out there again and not receiving the responses that I deserve.
又是一個馬拉松呀 寶貝 只是這個是否值得你繼續跑下去就要看你自己的評斷了!
2010年3月2日 星期二
So stupid.
It was nothing big deal, but I could still turn it into a big swirling snowball. Why do you have to be this stupid?
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I feel so tired of asking, of seemingly being the needy one; but keep on giving and hoping for an impossible reply. YOU can't keep on being like this anymore! You got life here! I think you will be better off talking to someone that can help you. Otherwise you might be going crazy!
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I feel so tired of asking, of seemingly being the needy one; but keep on giving and hoping for an impossible reply. YOU can't keep on being like this anymore! You got life here! I think you will be better off talking to someone that can help you. Otherwise you might be going crazy!
2010年3月1日 星期一
The uniqueness of human
Robert Sapolsky: The uniqueness of humans
http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/eng/robert_sapolsky_the_uniqueness_of_humans.html
http://storybank.stanford.edu/stories/robert-sapolsky-explores-what-and-not-unique-about-humans
A wonderful speech and a wonderful human being that we all should learn from him.
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